Abagabo bakunda imibonano mpuzabitsina kurusha abagore, ariko abagore baryoherwa cyane kurusha abagabo!

Impamvu yo gutekereza gutya ni uko akenshi umugabo cyangwa umuhungu ariwe ufata iyambere mu kwegera umukobwa cyangwa umugore, akamuganiriza, akamugezaho ikifuzo cye.

Nkuko byemezwa n’abahanga muri psychologie, aba bombi bafite ubuzima bw’imyororokere butandukanye, nta n’umwe ukunda imibonano mpuzabitsina kurusha undi cyangwa ngo aryoherwe nayo kurusha undi.

Uburebure bw’igitsina cy’umugabo bufitanye isano n’indeshyo y’intoki ze! Ibi nabyo nta shingiro bifite, nkuko byemezwa n’abaganga. Nta mahuriro kandi n’indeshyo y’ibirenge bye, cyangwa iy’ikindi gice cy’umubiri.

Kwikinisha bitera ubuhumyi, cyangwa gupfa amatwi. Iyi ni imyumvire yakwirakwiye cyane cyane ahagana mu kinyejana cya 18, kubera imyizerere ya Kiliziya gatolika yari yiganje cyane, aho kwikinisha byafatwaga nko kubura ubwenge cyangwa ingeso yaturukaga kwa shitani.

Ushobora kwandurira imitezi, mburugu n’izindi ndwara mu bwiherero rusange…Ibi nabyo sibyo kuko izi ndwara zihuriye mu rwunge abahanga babatije MST zandurira mu mibonano mpuzabitsina gusa. Mikorobi zizitera ntizishobora kubaho igihe ziri hanze y’umubiri w’umuntu.

Abagore ntibakora imibonano mpuzabitsina n’umuntu badafitanye urukundo. Aha ho ndumva nta bisobanuro byinshi umuntu yatanga, ni ngombwa gusa gutandukanya urukundo no kuryamana n’umuntu, bishobora kuba ikimenyetso cyo kubaha uwo babikoranye ariko ashobora kuba atamukunda na gatoya.

Igitsina cy’umugabo gishobora kuvunika ? Sibyo, ntikavunika nta gufa kigira. Hashobora kubaho impanuka iteza gukomereka kwacyo gusa, nko mu mibonano mpuzabitsina ya huti huti, gukira nabyo ntibitinda ku kibazo cyo gukomereka nk’uko.

Hari abantu bashobora gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina amasaha menshi , ikigereranyo kivuga ko imibonano mpuzabitsina imara hagati y’iminota 3-7. Kumara amasaha menshi birashoboka ariko iyo ntiba ikiri igikorwa cy’umubiri, ahubwo iba yabaye igikorwa cya roho.

Abagabo bakunda imibonano mpuzabitsina kurusha abagore, ariko abagore baryoherwa cyane kurusha abagabo!

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