Mugabo;ntushukwe n’ibigaragara inyuma h’umugore,ahubwo reba ibintu 10 bizakwereka umugore mwiza

Abagabo benshi usanga bahanze amaso ku bagore bafite ikibuno kinini, ba bagore tubona inyuma haba mu maso n’indi miterere y’umubiri tukavuga ngo ni beza, ariko ibyo byose hari igihe usanga waribeshye iyo mugeze mu buriri.

Umugabo n’umugore iyo bageze mu buriri, mu gikorwa cy’akabariro, mbere na mbere umwe aba agomba gusangira na mugenzi we mu ibyishimo. Dore ibimenyetso 10 bizakwereka umugore mwiza mu buriri.

1.Umugore uzi inshingano ze

Umugore mwiza mu buriri ni wawundi umenya inshingano ze, agomba kumenya ko uwo bagiye kubonana ari umugabo we, akamwubaha, akamutetesha. Benshi bibwira ko kunezezanya bitangirira mu buriri, oya, biba byatangiye kare, niyo mpamvu umugore mwiza atangira gushotora umugabo bakiri muri salo amubwira ibimugwa ku mutima, bakaza kugera mu buriri umwe yiyumvamo undi.

2.Umugore wirekura

Nubwo waba ufite ikibuno kiza gute, nubwo waba uri nyampinga w’Isi, ufite ubwiza budasanzwe ariko uri injiji mu gufata neza umugabo ntabwo wahirwa n’urugo, umugore mwiza mu buriri ni wawundi wirekura ku mugabo we, akamuha ibyo ashaka kandi neza, muri pozisiyo ibanogoye. Hari abadamu b’abanebwe, ugera mu buriri akagarama nk’umutumba, akumva ko ibisigaye ari umugabo ugomba kwirwariza.

3.Umugore utinyuka

Umugore utinyuka umugabo we, amufasha kumubwira aho yumva haryoshye, aho yumva yamushimira, iyo utinyuka umugabo ukamubwira ibyiyumviro byawe na we biramufasha akakugeza ku ndunduro y’ibyishimo wifuzaga.

4.Umugore uzi gutegura umugabo

Nk’uko twabikomojeho haruguru, umugore mwiza uzamubwira n’uburyo uzasanga yakwiteguye, haba ku meza, ku buriri busa neza kandi bunafite isuku, akakwegera akagukorakora, akagusiga umubiri we nubwo yaba atabyibushye cyangwa ngo agire ikibuno kinini, akagukorakora kuva ku musatsi kugera ku kirenge, uwo ni we mugore mwiza mu buriri.

5.Umugore waciye imyeyo

Mu muco wa Kinyarwanda, Guca imyeyo cyangwa Gukuna, ni ibintu abagabo benshi bagenderaho bakemeza ko umugore ari mwiza mu buriri, ni umuco wa kera ariko n’ubu urakora, ugaragaza ko umugore yahawe uburere na ba nyirasenge cyangwa nyina n’abandi bamureze, hari ababyitarutsa ko ari iby’abakera ariko ntabwo wabikura mu mitwe y’abagabo.

6.Umugore unyara

Kuri iyi ngingo, kunyara ntabwo ari ukwihagarika, ahubwo ni ukunyara mu gihe cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina, aho umugore yishima akamisha ibinyare cyangwa se Amavangingo. Iyo abagabo barimo gutera urwenya uzasanga bagira bati ‘umugore mwiza ni unyara’ icyo baba bavuga kirumvikana. Ubundi nta mugore utagira aya mavangingo, ahubwo ashobora kutayazana bitewe n’umugabo utazi kuyashaka.

7.Umugore wiyungura ubumenyi

Umugore mwiza ni wawundi uhora ashaka kwiyungura mu bumenye, kuri iyi ngingo aba agomba gushaka izindi nyigisho zamufasha kunezeza uwo bashakanye kurushaho, aba atandukanye na wawundi uba azi ko hari ikibura, akicecekera agira ati ‘azajye abirya uko biri’.

8.Umugore ubanza Imana

Umugore uzi Imana, azi ubwenge, azi gushimisha umugabo, ntabwo yirata ubwiza n’ibyo mutunze, ahubwo akubaha nk’umugabo mu buriri akakugenera ibyishimo wifuza, ntabwo azaba ameze nka babandi bataha basingiza icupa (inzoga) bakirengagiza inshingano zabo nk’abagore, bene uyu mugore uzi Imana ni na wawundi utaguca inyuma.

9.Umugore unyurwa

Niba uyu munsi mukoze imibonano ntagere ku byifuzo bye, arakubwira mwese mukamenya aho byapfiriye ejo mukahakosora, uyu niwe mugore mwiza, uyu ntabwo azaguca inyuma ngo age gushaka abamugeza aho yifuza ngo abe yanakuzanira kabutindi ya SIDA kandi mufatanyije mwahagera.

10.Umugore uzi gushima

Mu gihe musoje igikorwa, wa mugore mwiza ni wawundi ukwegera mu ijwi rituje akakubwira ati ‘Merci mon patron, urakoze mutware, ndanyuzwe, ndagukunda’ yarangiza akakuryama mu gatuza akaba yakuganiriza utugambo turyohera amatwi. Atandukanye na wawundi uhora yirata ubwiza, igihe cyose ahora abugukangisha, muryamana ku nduru, ukoraho akikanga ngo uramuhanda.

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